Somewhere between seminary, where I spent a lot of time reading and studying alone, and kids, with whom I spend all day and night, I have become a fairly strong introvert (and people worry about homeschooled kids socializing -- they should worry about the parents). I can still socialize with the best of them; I just don't always want to make the effort. And I often feel drained when I do.
Lately, though, while sitting on the couch with my knitting, warmed by my Snuggie (shut up; don't knock it until you've tried it), SleepyTime Tea at my side -- pretty much every night -- I am feeling the loss of social interaction (that is, outside of our homeschooling activities, church, and the various activities for committees I serve). Translated, I am missing parties. And husband dates. And girlfriend dates. And spontaneous social time.
Don't get me wrong, I have plenty of opportunities to socialize (as mentioned above). They are often rushed (kids' activities), though, or fraught with an agenda (meetings), or crowded (church).
Things change, especially as the kids get older. Fewer homeschooling activities provide social time for the parents while kids happily play. Lots of classes are now the drop-off type. Parents frequently have to cancel when a child is sick or everyone's tired.
With that, I am trying hard to reach out and create more social opportunities. That's right, I am attempting to better socialize myself. We happen to live in a pretty demographically idyllic building. There are several families with kids, several wonderful older couples with plenty of parenting and life wisdom to share, and plenty of diversity. We often commune in the foyer or the garage, while getting mail and bringing in groceries. During the summer, many of us frequent the beach.
I wanted a bit more, though. So I have been intentionally stopping by the apartments of building friends, taking them up on their offers to do so. These drop-ins often times lead to a communal dinner. We threw a New Year's Eve party for the building and enjoyed our first anything on New Year's Eve since the kids arrived. Last night, we threw an impromptu building Super Bowl Party. Nobody watched the game, but the kids happily roamed from apartment to apartment together as we adults chatted and shared life-stories.
At the end of these events, I am indeed usually exhausted, but I am also happy. They are filling me up. They are filling up the kids (I was accosted by Blueberry first thing this morning, begging, "When can we have another party?"). They provide lovely opportunities to better know our neighbors and to socialize with people of all ages and backgrounds (a veritable homage to Mr. Rogers). And they are relatively easy (I made a pot of chili, slapped a tablecloth on the table, and put out our party plates last night -- the neighbors filled in the rest).
And I feel better socialized already!
|Today marks 4 years exactly since we move into our building!|